Kyle is fast in everything, he skips crawling (most likely due to I never put him down on the floor because of the dog's fur in our house) and directly to standing and walking, except his speech skill is very very slow. He doesn't want to open his mouth to talk, he only point to what he wants. I was afraid of autism, so for each or quarterly routine check up with Dr. Mary at PAH, I'll raise my concern, but Dr. Mary assured me it will be fine as long as he understand what we're trying to tell him and he did babble a few sounds.
He did speak baby words (which no one understand) and the only words we able to understand is mumm mumm and nen nen, by 15months. We've been teaching him words like dada, mama, papa, etc but to no avail. He went to nursery at the age of 18months, and from there he still didn't talk much only baby words that no one understand.
Everyone assures me that it will be alright, some child will be slow in their speech but once they open their mouth to talk, they will talk non stop, and I'll wish that I have a remote control in hand for the mute function. I hate to say that but it's correct >.<. I really wish I have a remote control in hand to keep in quiet for awhile, sometimes.
He starts calling mummy at the age of 2 1/2 years old, yes first time and directly mummy, no mama or mimi. Before that he starts calling Dada, then to daddy and papa and mama for grandpa and grandma, from 2 1/2 years onwards, he talks non stop. He can recognize football club logo better than me at that age and he knows who is supporting which team in the house.
Last few weeks, I have babysit a friend's 14months boy. He is very slow in everything, and I find it hard to believe that his parents never pay any attention to this slow achievement in milestone chart. From my observation, he might have autism, though autism is difficult to diagnose in early age but if his parents didn't bother about his condition, it might be worsen from a normal child to become an autistic child.
Why did I said i sense autism in this baby? 1st, his teeth grinding, for a 14months old child to teeth grinding (not just in the sleep) in the broad day light. 2nd, banging his head to sleep and rocking back and forth, knocking his head for relaxation. 3rd, excessive crying for no reason.
I feel I have the responsibility to tell his parents about his condition, but hubby and a few of my friends that I talk to said his parents would've notice it and they didn't care, cause the baby is taking care by his mummy full time and I might find fault or trouble for myself cause some parents they don't like to listen negative feedback regarding their child. For me I'll be worry and might have visited the pediatrician few times per month to discuss on his condition.
His motor skill is way slow than a 14months old should have. He can't hold his own milk bottle, his hand is always in a grip position, and only pincer grip toys with his thumb and pointer, he can move up to sitting position once in awhile but rarely, he can pull himself up to stand with the help of the furniture or surrounding but not flat on his leg, it's on his pointed toes and he doesn't try to move around, even when I hold him up in standing position and ask him to try walk, he just doesn't know how to move one leg at a time or get any excited in learning to walk.
Other than all this, if he feels like his leg is stuck (which sometimes is not) he'll cry excessively and not consolable. Same goes if he can't reach a certain things. For normal child, when they can't reach they'll try to move, roll over, crawl, walk or stretch to reach it but he doesn't even try and will start crying.
He got only 1 crying style so for the 4 days of babysitting I got no idea what he is asking for at times, cause all the crying is in the same tone. I have a hard time taking him out even for a short while as I'm heavily pregnant and he didn't know how to grip tight on me. His finger is always in gripping position and he doesn't know how to open his leg to grip at my waist, so I always need two hands to carry him. It's difficult for me because I usually need to buy things or hold Kyle's hand. From enjoying babysitting him to become annoying.
I'm very fond of children, and I can't find any children in the world to be annoying especially at such young age (not to compare to those kids that screaming and running up and down my hallway) but babysitting him has put a lot of stress in me for the 4 days.
To say he is naturally slow in nature, I feel he is not as I tried to teach him to hold his own bottle and succeeded after a few tries. Maybe his parents didn't spend enough time and pay enough attention to him when taking care of him. Well I can't say anything regarding his parents who can leave him alone in the house while he is sleeping to enjoy their own dating in cinema for movies. The little boy might have stress himself out when awake when parents is not around that's why he needs to bang his head to sleep to find relaxation.
Taking care of baby is like taking care of a puppy, we need to teach them and care for them. Like puppies we can't scold them for peeing around if we in the first place didn't paper train them. So the first one to blame is always the parents / the owner.
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